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Groups
I do not run ongoing open groups. More often these are groups based on evidence-based protocols for a specific task, for a limited number of sessions: from 10 to 24. For a comfortable atmosphere they are, as a rule, closed and not recorded. All groups run in Russian.
How a group works
- Why a group
In a group you can notice how we get close, ask for help, get angry, pull away and try to be convenient. Meeting different reactions, talking about them and gradually trying differently, alongside other people.
- Agreements
This needs clear agreements and attention to what happens between members. The facilitators help to discuss tension, conflicts and boundaries; everyone keeps the right to choose what to share.
- On safety
The facilitators create and hold the conditions but cannot promise a complete absence of discomfort. The confidentiality agreement is mandatory; I explain its limits before participation.
- How to join
An application, a short interview with me, sometimes a couple of questionnaires, signing that group’s consent form and paying on its terms. A place in a group is chosen and paid for by the person themselves; it cannot be bought for a loved one.
Informed consent · memo
Group member memo
A group rests on agreements. Each group has its own consent form: it depends on the topic and on the state of the people we work with, and you receive it before the interview. Here are the general terms that apply in all my groups.
What are the working terms in a group
- confidentiality;
- mutual respect: I-statements, care with advice and active helping;
- free order of discussion;
- reactions as a sign of solidarity are welcome;
- the “STOP” rule;
- shared terms on drinks and food, lateness and absences.
What can I say about the group, and what not
You may talk about your own participation with trusted people. You may not reveal other members. Instead of “Vera shared a great idea”, better: “One of the members goes for a walk to get away from heavy memories. I thought that was a good idea.” If you meet a member outside the group, do not show where you know each other from. This is the one agreement whose breach means leaving the group.
What to do if it gets too hard for me
Strong emotions and tears in a group are normal. But if a discussion or an exercise causes too much discomfort, you can say “STOP” or sit the exercise out. If you feel like leaving the group during a session or after it, if at all possible discuss it with the facilitator first.
How discussion works
Sometimes I suggest everyone speaks in turn, sometimes it is an open conversation. Be attentive to yourself and to each other, and from time to time “step aside” to make room for others.
Attendance and payment
Attendance, absence and payment terms are specific to each group and are described in that group’s working terms, which you receive together with the consent form before the interview. If you cannot come, let us know in advance so nobody waits for you.
Drinks, food, camera
- Non-alcoholic drinks are fine; eating during sessions is not encouraged.
- Camera on: a group is faces and reactions. If you need to switch it off, say so out loud.
- Taking part under the influence of alcohol or other substances is not allowed.
Can I socialise with members outside the group
While the group is running, it is not recommended: it breaks the dynamics and makes the group less useful. If something does happen outside a session, it is brought to the session.
Will sessions be recorded
No. For comfort and safety, sessions are not recorded by facilitators or members.
How to join a group
An application, a short interview with the facilitator, sometimes a couple of questionnaires, signing that group’s consent form and paying on its terms. From age 18. Contraindications and inclusion criteria depend on the topic; we discuss them at the interview and suggest what might suit you instead of the group.
How to leave a group
In a session, not by message: leaving is an event for the whole group, and it matters to say goodbye. Facilitators may ask a member to leave if her participation has become unsafe for her or others; we always talk in person first.
How to reach you and when you reply
Email and messengers are not always confidential, so personal and sensitive matters are for sessions, and messages are for practical questions.
I am available from 09:00 to 20:00 London time and reply within 48 hours. Telegram: @olantonova. Email: olga.antonova.y@gmail.com.
Messages and booking are not for emergencies. If you are in danger now or thinking about harming yourself, contact the emergency services or the crisis line in your country.
This is the full text of the consent form. Before the first session I will send the same document for signing. All documents
What the work looks like
A short form: who you are, why a group and what you have already tried.
A meeting with the facilitator, sometimes a couple of questionnaires. We check whether the group suits you and you suit the group.
You sign that group’s consent form and pay on its terms.
From ten to twenty-four sessions, closed after the second one. We finish together.
Groups
Current and past groups, in Russian: “Mozhno byt’” (“It is allowed to be”) for women in emigration, MBCT for depression and burnout, a nonviolent communication skills group, “Safe place” (recovery after complex trauma), an information group on complex PTSD, “The club of tired mothers”. Details and dates are on the Russian groups page.
